How Inspirational Blog from a Grieving Wife Affected My Life, Maybe Yours   

How Inspirational Blog from a Grieving Wife Affected My Life, Maybe Yours  

How Inspirational Blog from a Grieving Wife Affected My Life, Maybe Yours

I was just forwarded a wonderful blog about Jill’s husband’s life . I had to write her to say ‘thanks’
for the timely,  needed inspirationfor my own life. …
Dear Jill,
That was a very moving, bittersweet account of Fred’s life and persona 
that has given me new, needed inspiration for my own life.
 It’s never long enough, but Fred certainly accomplished much in his life
and seemed to enjoy most every moment (aside from his illnesses, which
he was somehow able to  not dwell on.)   
I am at a crossroads in my life and Fred (and your) story gives me new
inspiration to climb out of the dark place I’ve been in of late. In my case,
it was my dear, young , special cat (don’t laugh) who I lost that triggered the grief (which 
is actually an accumulation of many things.  At least with Ornji I had a best pal
to bond with during his amazing battle he finally lost to FIV-influenced liver cancer.
But along the way  during that battle we had our best days together, savoring  the days
– Ornji and some pets , in general, don’t always dwell on their illnesses like people, especially
when they still have quality of life with projects of their own to keep the busy and happy.
With some inspiration from people including you via your blog about Fred I will be 
commemorating Ornji in an ebook, gathered from the multiple blog chapters I’ve written
(http://FavoriteFurryFriends.info/Ornji). Along the way Ornji taught me many things
including enjoying life and making the most of what time we have.
In my case, I’m lucky to have good health right now, but we never know what can happen 
tomorrow, so each day should be savored and enjoyed, if not met with an accomplishment or two.
In recognition of Ornji, I try to do at least one good deed or achievement per day.
My accomplishment today was taking my surviving cat to a kennel to see if he would accept it for a day
so I could take my first vacation in a decade ;  I won’t go into the many contributing factors
that held be back from traveling. If all goes well – I won’t go away if Zack doesn’t accept
the kennel (but first reports are good in this one day test) – this will be a major accomplishment for me.
In summation, your article came at a very opportune time for me. It’s amazing how  good can result out
of bad.  I will hang on to Fred’s story and think of him along my future road (hopefully the Road To Success).
With your permission I will pass on your artiocle to others like myself who may benefit from Fred’s story.
Thanks again to you and Fred.

AND NOW, FRED’S STORY, COURTESY OF JILL ( AND FRED)…

BY JILL KONRATH

” When my husband kissed me goodbye at the airport on November 6th, I had no idea it would be for the last time.

Fred-Jill-Hiking.pngI was flying home for a day and then on to Boston to speak at HubSpot’s big INBOUND conference. Fred was staying at our condo in southern Utah to spend a couple weeks golfing.

That’s not how things turned out. Two days later he died of complications from PSC, an autoimmune liver disease. I made it back to say good-bye; so did my kids. It was tough. We all miss him—a lot.

As I reflect back on our life together, I realize how much Fred changed the trajectory of my life, reordered my priorities and modeled behaviors that I wanted to emulate. That’s why I want to share them with you.

Life Lesson 1. Winning is always possible.

When I first met Fred, he was the head football coach in White Bear Lake. By the age of 33, he’d already won two state championships. But in between those seasons, his teams really struggled.

I’ll never forget the time his team played Stillwater, the reigning state champs who had a 6-0 record. White Bear still hadn’t yet won a game. Over the weekend, Fred and the coaching staff spent hours watching game film. Their challenge? Figuring out how to stop an unstoppable offense and how to score against an impenetrable defense.

We went out for dinner mid-week. He was excited about what the team was working on. He used the placemat to draw up their offensive plans and blocking schemes. He diagramed how they were going to keep Stillwater from scoring.

Shocked, I finally said, “You don’t actually think you’re going to win, do you?”

Fred answered, “Yes. I do. We’ve got a good game plan. And, if we can execute it and they have a bad night, we can win.”

On Friday night, White Bear came out on top, winning by a score of 7-6. This was only possible because of the hard work put into figuring out a “win strategy” and near flawless execution.

Life Lesson 2. Be a cheerleader.

Fred-coaching.pngAny time you learn new skills or go beyond your comfort zone, fear and doubt creep in. As a life-long coach in both sports and business, Fred knew that the young people and adults he worked with needed to know the “why’s” and “how-to’s” first.

But, to be the best they could be, he knew that people needed someone to believe in them. When he was coaching, whenever kids did anything right, Fred was always the first one there, patting them on the back and saying, “Atta, baby!”

And, when people screwed up, he pulled them quietly aside to show/tell them what to do differently. Then, before he sent them back to work (or into the game), he’d pat them on the back and say, “You can do it.”

When I was thinking of starting my own consulting firm, I was a bundle of angst, worrying if I could actually make a go of it. When I told Fred my fears, he said with a 100% conviction, “I’d bet on you any day.” It’s what I needed to make the leap into entrepreneurship.

In short, Fred wanted people to be the best they could be—and this was how he helped them achieve it.

Life Lesson 3. Always have fun.

When I first watched my husband coaching the high school kids, it was clear that he was having more fun than anyone else on the field. He loved what he was doing and his enthusiasm was contagious. I saw him do the same thing when he coached both our kids. He made practice and drills fun, while working the team hard.

When he ran his leadership development program at Thrivent (a financial services firm), he spent hours at a magic shop figuring out what would be fun and surprising to the attendees. His favorite was setting a big glass of water down right in front of big table as he was talking.

Then, when he was gesturing wildly with his hands, he’d knock it over. Everyone would jump up to avoid getting soaked and quickly grab their workbooks, purses and devices. Except, no one ever did. When they weren’t looking, he’d dropped some “potion” in the water that turned it into a gel.

For me, Fred was my playmate. While I was working, he was busy planning what we’d do next. As I write this, I’m at our condo in Southern Utah. Every day, when I was done with work, he’d have an idea about where we should go hiking or a new restaurant to visit. He was always on the lookout for cool activities or incoming shows.

Fun matters. Fun makes everything better. Mary Poppins once said, “In every job that must be done, there’s an element of fun. And when you find the fun then snap, the job’s a game.”

Life Lesson 4. Learn new things.

When my husband decided to retire early due to health reasons, I was worried that he’d become a couch potato and lose his oomph (like so many retirees). After all, research shows that if you want to stay vital in life and work, learning new knowledge and skills is essential.

I shouldn’t have been concerned. The first project Fred tackled was earning his instrument rating, a special designation held by only 5% of private pilots that allows you to fly when visibility is near zero. It took a full year.

Then, he decided to re-do his prized possession, a 1966 Corvette. He literally took it apart piece-by-piece, putting every nut and bolt in a little plastic bag, labeling it and hanging it on a wall in the garage. When it was stripped bare, a welder fixed the corroded frame and then Fred started reassembling it.

He spent hours watching YouTube videos to figure out how to put it together again. He was a frequent visitor to Corvette forums, reading how others fixed problems, found good replacement parts and more. Four years later, after it was finally running again, he was proudly showing it at local car shows.

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Finally, Fred was a golf lover. Even as a retiree, he was determined to bring his handicap down. He religiously read golf magazines, watched videos and experimented with new techniques. When the weather permitted, he practiced daily. Putting, chipping and ultimately, the drives. Shortly before he passed away, he shot a 78!

Life-long learning is essential for all of us. We feel better. We’re challenged. We stay at the top of our game.

Life Lesson 5. Create memorable experiences.

My husband loved planning events of all sorts—the kind that wouldn’t be forgotten. My surprise 40th birthday was filled with an assemblage of friends from every decade of my life. Anniversaries were carefully-planned romantic dinners. This fall, Fred pulled together a 5-day trip to the Columbia River Gorge to celebrate the completion of my newest book.

With my daughter Katie, he created a tradition of going to one big horse race each year. Together, they completed the Triple Crown series by going to the Kentucky Derby, the Belmont and the Preakness. They also looked forward to watching horse racing at a small local track, where they’d bet against each other for fun. When the track was closed, they’d visit the Science Museum, then go for dinner and gelato at a favorite Italian restaurant.

Memorable experiences with my son Ryan centered around football and flying. This fall, a few weeks before Fred died, the two of them went to UND’s homecoming game where my son played college ball. In previous years, they went to watch home games of the Oregon Ducks and Miami. They’d also make annual treks to the Oshkosh Airshow, camping out on the tarmac and spending their days looking at the planes.

In business today, customer experience is the #1 emerging trend. As leaders and sellers, it’s essential to think about this at work now too. But I’d also suggest you make it part of your personal life as well.

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Life Lesson 6. Choose your attitude.

My husband had numerous health problems throughout his life, but most people didn’t have a clue. He was always so active and upbeat. Over the years, he had ulcerative colitis, psoriasis, bad headaches, severe curvature of the spine, Hashimoto’s disease, skin cancer and multiple operations.

Most recently, Fred had quadruple by-pass surgery (where he almost died), a hip replacement and was undergoing experimental procedures for neck pain. All the while, the PSC was slowly destroying his liver.

Yet Fred always got up with a smile on his face and plans for doing something that mattered. He always had some project going on to help others, improve the house, or to brighten someone’s day. And, he’d try to get some physical activity in as well, knowing it helped him stay healthier.

By evening, Fred was often exhausted and would collapse in front of the TV … but he felt good, like he’d accomplished something meaningful and enjoyed the people in his life.

Life Lesson 7. Your job is not your life.

After experiencing early success in sales at Xerox, I was hooked. I loved making my numbers, hitting 135% of quota, then even higher. I loved competing against the “A” players and beating them on the leader boards. I loved winning Sales Rep of the Month awards and the quarterly contests. All I could think about was getting promoted, the faster the better—and making even more money.

Today, I feel fortunate that my husband fought for my soul. While he was happy for my success, he continually challenged on the fact that my self-image was so wrapped up in being “successful.” Initially I hated him for it.

But the reality is, he was right. I could have easily become a bigwig executive making boatloads of money. I could have been so wrapped up in my job that I’d have lost the important relationships in my life—and all the priceless moments that go with them.

Fred helped me stay grounded in what matters. Family. Friends. And, doing work that matters.

Fred-Close-Up.pngFred’s Motto.

Finally, I’d like to share the credo my husband lived by. Katie and Ryan heard him say it endlessly. As a coach, he always shared it with the kids on his teams. I think he got it from Lou Holtz, a legendary coach who once asked Fred to join his football staff.

Do what’s right.
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Be the best you can be.

Left Hypocrisy Shines Thru Again – Trump Gave up Billionaire Lifestye to Take This Abuse

Left Hypocrisy Shines Thru Again – Trump Gave up Billionaire Lifestye to Take This Abuse

TRUMP THE MAN WHO GAVE UP THE MILLIONARE LIFESTYLE TO TAKE THIS ABUSE

Left Hypocrisy Shines Thru Again – Trump Gave up Billionaire Lifestye to Take This Abuse

 

REMEMBER WHEN GOP RIOTED. ME NEITHER

REMEMBER WHEN GOP RIOTED. ME NEITHER

 

IT’S THE ANGRY WHO VOTED AGAINST HATE

 

Left Hypocrisy Shines Thru Again – Trump Gave up Billionaire Lifestye to Take This Abuse in Pictures

 

 


 

 

 

 

Left Hypocrisy Shines Thru Again – Trump Gave up Billionaire Lifestye to Take This Abuse in Pictures

 

 

 

How to Multiply your Abundance- An EVERYDAY ThanksGiving ‘Gratitude Guide’

How to Multiply your Abundance- An EVERYDAY ThanksGiving ‘Gratitude Guide’

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A PRACTICAL Do-It-Yourself GRATITUDE GUIDE’ FOR A HAPPIER, MORE MEANINGFUL LIFE –

TO KEEP AND REFER TO EVERYDAY – PUT IT ON YOUR MIRROR

 

How to Multiply your Abundance-  ThanksGiving EVERYDAY

(inspired by Doug Andrew, LiveAbundant.com)

Why Do We Only Celebrate Thanks-Giving But One Day a Year?  Why Not Celebrate Everyday?  Here’s A Simple, Quick Practice for a Happier, more Meaningful Life  

This little 10-minute activity could/should have great positive impact on your life as well as that of others, places and things.

 

What Are You Most Grateful For?

A PRACTICAL PRACTICE:

A.)  On a tablet or large piece of paper

Write Down  What You Are Most Grateful For:  (See Top 10, below, but you can add to the list – )

and be sure to leave plenty of space after each item to write more later:

 

What Are You Most Grateful For? (Start Writing…)

      1.)  A Person (or Animal) You Are Grateful For

      2.) A Person (or Animal) Who Has Passed Away you Are Grateful For Having known for his or her Talents, Values, etc. (g. could be a family relative or a famous person or anyone )

      3.)  A Physical Ability that you possess that you are grateful for (g. playing a musical instrument, adept at languages, athletics, good memory, etc.)4.) A Material Possession (may not be THAT important but why not… your car, smart phone,etc)

      4.) Something in NATURE you’re grateful for (I love to go to Napa not just for the vineyards  but for the beauty including riding my bike thru the vineyards and scenery. I love the Eastbay Park System with countless amazing, diverse places to explore by foot, bike, water, air)

     5.) A Place On Earth (g. a favorite travel destination or just a place you admire for whatever reason)

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6.) A Modern Day Invention (something as basic as the flush toilet or as complex as the smart phone or internet or your favorite food)

7.) Your Home or Place of Abode

 

 8.) Your Family, siblings

 9.) God, Universe or Higher Power – whatever your belief is

10. ) A Personal Possession – It may seem to go against the grain of what we’re aiming for here, but what the heck… you’re entitled to a favorite possession (even if it IS  a material object such as a car or smart phone

 

 

WE’RE NOT DONE YET – HERE COMES THE ‘MAGIC’..

 

B.) Now Write Down WHY You Are Grateful for the Above  and, finally…

 

C.) Write Down HOW You Would Show Your Appreciation for these People and Items

(e.g. Writing a note to those people expressing your gratitude for them or writing a blog or poem about your favorite place, possession or thing, etc.)

 

NOW, YOU HAVE YOUR GRATITUDE GUIDE TO ‘BOOKMARK’ OR PUT ON YOUR MIRROR TO REMIND YOU OF ‘THE GOOD’ WHEN THINGS MIGHT NOT BE GOING SO WELL IN YOUR LIFE –OR EVEN WHEN THEY ARE… AND TAKE ACTION MORE OFTEN TO MAKE FOR A HAPPIER, BETTER LIFE WHILE ALSO BRINGING JOY TO OTHERS AND NATURE

 

 D.) optional) For an even more enhanced return, Share Your Top Three (of the 10 – or you can do all 10) Gratitudes with your family and/or friends for a wonderful , productive discussion next time you gather around – AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS!

 

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NIXON RESIGNATION 42 YEARS AGO AGAINST TODAY’S POLITICAL BACKDROP

NIXON RESIGNATION 42 YEARS AGO AGAINST TODAY’S POLITICAL BACKDROP

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In today’s world Nixon may not look so bad in light compared to Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton

NIXON RESIGNATION  42 YEARS AGO NOW  VIEWED IN MORE FAVORABLE LIGHT

 

      Below article by an older, more open-minded liberal  journalist  casts former President Nixon’s 1974 resignation  in a more  sympathetic light against the political backdrop of today.  While Nixon was by no means the most exemplary character he wasn’t all bad and , especially considering his less than stellar upbringing and resulting paranoia, handling his Presidency about as well as might be expected. Unfortunately, we don’t get the best quality human beings as presidents, but Nixon did make attempts while   bucking an uphill stream in the liberal late Sixties and ’70s.  Many never gave him a chance and his ego and persecution complex really took a beating.  

     He was not the sympathetic, likable candidate   we saw in JFK but Nixon was a hard worker who  did make  positive contributions as President and , as a person, must be given some credit for being able to bounce back from his 1960 loss and persecution in the media.  By today’s standards, his Watergate crimes pale in comparison to those of the Clintons, yet  the media carries their water as it has most liberal candidates. Not sure  why. 

      When I studied journalism in the 1960s a key requisite was to report both sides of the issue. A few years later true journalism disappeared and has never reappeared with rare exception, perhaps Martin Snapp’s own writing,  as below.

 

 

 

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by MARTIN SNAPP, Bay Area Newsgroup Writer and http://martinsnapp.blogspot.com/

 

Tuesday will be the 42nd anniversary of the Nixon resignation from the Presidency, an event I celebrated by literally dancing in the streets.

Why did people like me despise him so? Partly, it was because he fought dirty. Starting with his first race against Jerry Voorhis, his favorite tactic was intimating that whoever stood in his way was a traitor.

But I think the real reason was because, as much as we hate to admit it, he was the true mirror of our national soul.

We want to think we’re like Jack Kennedy – handsome, graceful, a hit with the girls. But the truth is that most of us are more like Nixon – insecure, resentful, and compulsively self-destructive.

I remember the night of the Kent State killings, when he tried to talk with protesters at the Lincoln Memorial by making chitchat about football. How we sneered!

It feels good to make fun of the class nerd. It makes you feel like part of the “in” crowd, even if you aren’t.

Especially when you can feel so self-righteous about it. After all, this was Nixon the red-baiter, second only to Joe McCarthy as the arch-villain of the 1950s. He deserved all the bad things that happened to him, didn’t he?

Yes and no. Sure, he looked silly talking about touchdowns and field goals to students who wanted to talk about war and peace. But it was the closest he could come to extending a hand. And we slapped it away, laughing at his lamenwss.

To a paranoid like Nixon, it must have been another confirmation of what life had been teaching him since childhood: He really was surrounded by enemies.

“What starts the process, really,” he wrote about his passion for winning, “are the laughs and slights and snubs when you are a kid. But if your anger is deep enough and strong enough, you learn that you can change those attitudes by personal gut performance.”

 

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Nixon had a childhood that would make anyone paranoid. His younger brother Arthur died from meningitis, then his older brother Harold died from tuberculosis.

Those illnesses ate up what little money the family had, and Nixon had to turn down a scholarship offer from Harvard and attend little Whittier College, instead. (No wonder he was so jealous of the Kennedys.)

And yet this loser, through sheer force of will, transformed himself into a winner. A lot of us thought he sold his soul in the process, but who among us is without sin? Our beloved Jack Kennedy’s record isn’t so hot when it comes to the McCarthy era, either. And remember, it was the Kennedys, not Nixon, who authorized the FBI wiretaps on Martin Luther King.

Ironically, after the fall of the Soviet Union the secret KGB files came to light, and it turned out that some of the people Nixon accused of espionage, like Alger Hiss, really were spies, after all.

I know it doesn’t make up for Watergate. All I’m saying is that Nixon was speaking for us all when he pronounced his own epitaph the day he resigned: “Others may hate you, but those who hate you don’t win unless you hate them. And then you destroy yourself.”

There, but for the grace of God, go we.

 

 


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Less Than 50% of Democrats Now Support Israel Despite Terror Threats – Jews Leaving Party?

Less Than 50% of Democrats Now Support Israel Despite Terror Threats – Jews Leaving Party?

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Republicans increasing support for Israel while Democrats waning

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Less than 50% of Democrats Now Supporting Israel, Down from 60% high

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Jews still identify most with Democrat party but down to 61%, which may , in part, explain the unexpected drop in Democrat support for Israel, noted in chart #2


Less Than 50% of Democrats  Now  Support   Israel Despite Terror  – Jews Leaving Party?

The Democratic Party, once known for its strident support for Israel, has been bypassed by  Republicans by almost  30% in the past decades with Republicans now well ahead of Democrats in support of Israel, 75% to 48% as of a recent Gallup (2014) survey


Despite to what appears an increasing threat to Israel from ISIS, Iran and others – and, in light, of the latest terrorist killings   in Tel Aviv, Israel- Democratic support for Israel is down to 48% , down from 61% in  1991.  (Survey only goes back to 1990. ) We would imagine support was even higher with more supportive, earlier administrations, going back to the earlier skirmishes like the ‘6 Day War’  in late 1960s (but surveys don’t go back this far.)

It’s especially interesting because Democrats have, until  recent times have been the greatest friends of Israel – and, especially the Jews, of which the great majority have identified as Democrats. But, even this stat, appears to be changing, remarkably, indicated by Chart #3 which shows Jewish Democratic identification was down to 61% in 2014 from over 70% in 2008.  So, while the one-time ‘sympathetic’ party has, surprisingly dropped in support of Israel, the latter chart would lead us to believe that more Jews have ‘left the party’ or at least no longer identify with the Democratic party.

We must deduce that  the Jewish drop in Democratic affiliation has come in light of the increasing threat to Israel, which includes that coming from increasing anti-Israel  America.  It doesn’t come as a surprise that Jews may be reacting to America’s increased support for Iran and seeming decrease for Israel, as evidenced by President Obama’s strained relations with Israel while signing off on the big Iran nuclear pact against Prime Minister Netenyahu’s wishes. It’s not surprising to see that some American Jews may be reacting to America’s estrangement with Israel as President Obama has welcomed Muslim immigration to America by 57% while increasing aid to Iran ($150 million) and other Muslim countries.

 

 

 

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